What If You Reach Your Goals and You Are Still Not Happy?
Do you find yourself asking for THIS and THAT with the Law of Attraction… and not getting the results that you want?
The secret to manifesting your desires may be as simple as asking better questions.
Have you ever asked yourself: WHY do you want IT _____ (the desire)?
Do you believe that getting it means that you’ll finally have _________ (the real result you desire)? Is having _________ (real result you desire) the driving force behind you reaching your goals, or is there a much deeper reason (a deeper meaning behind it for you)?
For example let’s use a profession like coaching (you can substitute any career or goal that you like here). Just imagine that you are out there right now wondering whether or not you should become a coach. Next you might wonder WHY do you want to be a coach? Do you believe that being a coach intrinsically means you’ll make more money, have more flexibility, be in charge of your own destiny, be happier or have more satisfaction? Is having a huge bank account the driving force behind coaching or is it passion for helping others and confronting new challenges everyday that fulfills you?
You may want the coaching business, to get money, prestige, fame or variety… Then again, you may want to coach for the simple pleasure of helping others. Or you may even want to coach to fulfill your own desire to be needed, listened to, respected or admired. More likely, you may want all of your desires fulfilled so that you can FINALLY BE HAPPY.
Therefore, it begs the question, does being a coach (or any other job, profession or goal for that matter) = happiness?
For some it may….but for MOST it’s just barely enough motivation to make you get off the couch in the morning and make something happen. The end result HAPPINESS is so intangible, seemingly elusive and far out in the distance. It just doesn’t seem real because it is something that we are constantly striving towards but that we never truly seem to reach.
In my experience, having the result or desire of happiness, fulfillment or success (or substitute any state of mind that you like) is not enough to drive you toward your goals. Happiness, success and peace are in the here and now. They are not an end destination – something that you drive towards or “try” to obtain. No matter how many goals you set and hours that you work, you will never end up at the train station of happiness or success. You need to get on the train of happiness or success now and see where it leads you. Happiness and success are who you are already – or at the very least, who you are capable of being right now if you choose to be. Therefore, they can’t possibly be something that motivates you to achieve your goals.
If you are currently struggling to reach your goals, I want you to stop right now, sit down and examine what the real and deeper meaning is for you. The real “WHY” that you want to have a result or an outcome. Once you connect to this real WHY – and you will know it when you have stated it because you will connect to some REAL EMOTION – that will be the moment when the tires hit the pavement and you begin to get real traction and momentum towards achieving your goal(s).
From my own experience as a coach, author and speaker, I can tell you that writing and publishing a book is not easy. If I simply wanted to have happiness or to make a few dollars selling a book, it simply would not have been enough to keep me moving forward when things got tough. For me, the driving force behind my first book was 2 THINGS – (1) I want for my mother’s life to have meant something and for her love and kindness to live on forever and (2) I want to be in a position to financially support children from disadvantaged backgrounds to have the food, clothing, supplies and support that they need to stay in school. It’s that simple for me. It was never about the book, the career or the goal – it has always been about the deeper meaning for me.
Now I don’t know what the REAL WHY will be for you….now might be a really good time to figure out what that is for you. But I do know that when you find it, you will become UNSTOPPABLE and your success will become INEVITABLE!
By Denis Trudeau 23 Jan 2012
I’m sharing this for sure! xo
By Crecer 19 Feb 2012
Thanks , I have recently been searching for information about this subject for ages and yours is the greatest I have discovered so far. But, what about the conclusion? Are you sure about the source?
By Blake Lupoe 20 Feb 2012
Some people are just never happy. It doesn’t matter what happens to them, they just aren’t. Great post. Straightforward.
By Dia Paduano 21 Feb 2012
I see this in my kids – they say, I’ll be happy when…. Thanks for giving me a foundation for discussing it with them. Happiness is NOW not sometime in the future.
By Cole Ward 21 Feb 2012
If you are posting on other places, I’d like to follow anything fresh you have to post. Could you post a list of your twitter feed, Facebook page or linkedin profile?
By Pedro de Exito 21 Feb 2012
I believe everything posted was actually very reasonable. However, consider this, suppose you were to create a awesome headline? I ain’t saying your information isn’t solid, but what if you added something that grabbed folk’s attention? I mean What If You Reach Your Goal and You Are Still Not Happy? is kinda plain. You might look at Yahoo’s front page and see how they create post titles to grab viewers to click. You might add a video or a related pic or two to grab readers excited about what you’ve got to say. Just my opinion, it could make your website a little livelier.
By Rhondalynn Korolak 05 Mar 2012
Thanks Pedro – I do in fact write for Yahoo. 🙂 I’m not sure what you mean about adding video – this blog post is in fact a video post. Perhaps you missed it?
By Shadi Merhi 22 Oct 2014
How true – from birth it’s because we are condition to keep aspiring to this and that.