How to Identify Self-Sabotaging Patterns and Destroy Them For Good
Are you sabotaging your own success? Here are some tell-tale signs that you might be:
1. Do you sometimes jump into a project or enterprise before fully comprehending what you need to do?
2. Have you ever undertaken a task that you know you will probably abandon as soon as something more interesting comes along?
3. Do you allow yourself to get so sidetracked by details that you lose track of your original objective?
4. Have you ever put off making a decision or getting started on a project because “things are just fine the way they are”?
If you answered “Yes” to any of these, self-sabotage may be preventing you from achieving what you say that you want on a conscious level. Self-sabotage often exists when there is underlying incongruence between what you say that you want and what you feel is possible, realistic or “what you deserve”.
The first step to eliminating self-sabotage once and for all is being aware that it may be a factor. Step back from you present situation and analyse your conscious desire(s) and your underlying intention(s). Begin to ask questions and peel back the layers to determine just what it is that’s keeping you from your goals. Are you afraid of change? Is there a secondary gain or benefit you get from not achieving your goals? Do you fear the loss of love of someone if you should fail (or even succeed)? Are you afraid what people might say? Is there some part of you that feels you do not deserve to have the result that you desire?
Own up to “it”, whatever “it” is, and work through “it” so you can move forward. Success isn’t some unattainable, elusive destination. Science has already proven that your brain is a natural goal seeking mechanism – once there is congruence between what you say that you want and what you believe to be true in your subconscious mind, your mind cannot help but oblige you and deliver the results you long for.
You already have all of the answers and resources you need to heal yourself and achieve your dreams … They already exist in your own mind right now. There is nothing missing or broken or deficient – you just need to learn how re-connect to this wisdom and power of your underlying intentions and the infinite resourcefulness of the subconscious mind.
Excerpt from my book “On The Shoulders of Giants”: 33 New Ways to Guide Yourself to Greatness
Did You Know…
In a study in Stanford University a group of participants were asked to eat something particularly decadent. They were able to choose what that item was, for some it was a chocolate cake, for others cream cakes or donuts smothered in jam. It was found that regardless of the chosen treat, the thing that made the biggest difference was the intention given to that food. For example, those that ate the food while feeling guilty about how much damage they would be doing their bodies showed a dip in immune function. Those that ate without any reservations, remorse or worry showed a rise in immune function. The item of food made no immediate difference to the body other than the increase or decrease of the immune system; the change depended on the intent or meaning given to the experience, not the food itself.